There used to be a time when I believed there was only one "good" and one "right" thing. Blame it on ourselves, blame it on our books, blame it on our society, or maybe there's no one to blame here, but that is where most of us begin.
However, over the years I started to realize that there could probably be one "right" thing, but there are surely many "good" things, for good to me could be bad to you. I had indications that one fine day, I will also accept the fact that there is probably no such truth as the one "right" thing either. And that is happening. I've started to accept that right in one context need not be right in another, and the analysis of the context is subjective. I've almost started believing that anything did with an intention that "perceivably" creates better harmony is good and is right. But perceiving better harmony is not really easy. You have to weigh all that you can, and if you can't, there are always "rules" and "guidelines" our ancestors have created to help us out.
I'm happy that I've been capturing this transition of mine in this blog. Rationality-Emotionality, Detachment-Attachment, Good-Bad, Right-Wrong - I have dissected all that I could and am very much looking forward to more dissections. Thanks to all of you for all the torture you bore from me all these years, I might spare you a little going forward because I'm just about to get caught in a vicious cycle of attachment and achievement.
If you protest against gravity, you can probably be the best pole-vaulter, but you've to come down eventually to accept the realities of nature. When you do come down, you realize that the world is in fact more beautiful from the ground than it was from the top. Or maybe it's not, I don't know. After a long protest with myself about why I should get married, I finally decided to give up. Now life seems more beautiful than it was before. Or maybe it's not, I again don't know. There are only a few things that we can control, for everything else, there is destiny.
It is not difficult to guess, yes, this is an announcement. She is doing her masters in surgery, and I asked her one day, "Do you know there is a life where you can use the knife and cut, but nobody's life is at stake?" She exclaimed "Oh wow!" and I continued, "That will happen if we get married, I will make sure you don't come out of the kitchen. Are you game?" I'm not sure if she got my poor joke, but poor girl, God save her! Fine, let me talk seriously.
Between the devil of marriage and the deep blue sea of life, we've chosen the devil and together we've decided to cross the deep blue sea. Was that serious enough? I don't think so. Sorry, I guess I've lost the seriousness in life.
To invoke the blessings of Lord Destiny and to seek all your wishes, we're getting wedded later this year. It's a long time still, but our contributions to the $25 billion Indian wedding industry have already begun. Leap of faith they call, and we've decided to take the leap, just as everyone else decides to. Where is this leap going to take us? Well, time will tell. But right now, it's celebration time, why think about dirty philosophies!
However, over the years I started to realize that there could probably be one "right" thing, but there are surely many "good" things, for good to me could be bad to you. I had indications that one fine day, I will also accept the fact that there is probably no such truth as the one "right" thing either. And that is happening. I've started to accept that right in one context need not be right in another, and the analysis of the context is subjective. I've almost started believing that anything did with an intention that "perceivably" creates better harmony is good and is right. But perceiving better harmony is not really easy. You have to weigh all that you can, and if you can't, there are always "rules" and "guidelines" our ancestors have created to help us out.
I'm happy that I've been capturing this transition of mine in this blog. Rationality-Emotionality, Detachment-Attachment, Good-Bad, Right-Wrong - I have dissected all that I could and am very much looking forward to more dissections. Thanks to all of you for all the torture you bore from me all these years, I might spare you a little going forward because I'm just about to get caught in a vicious cycle of attachment and achievement.
If you protest against gravity, you can probably be the best pole-vaulter, but you've to come down eventually to accept the realities of nature. When you do come down, you realize that the world is in fact more beautiful from the ground than it was from the top. Or maybe it's not, I don't know. After a long protest with myself about why I should get married, I finally decided to give up. Now life seems more beautiful than it was before. Or maybe it's not, I again don't know. There are only a few things that we can control, for everything else, there is destiny.
It is not difficult to guess, yes, this is an announcement. She is doing her masters in surgery, and I asked her one day, "Do you know there is a life where you can use the knife and cut, but nobody's life is at stake?" She exclaimed "Oh wow!" and I continued, "That will happen if we get married, I will make sure you don't come out of the kitchen. Are you game?" I'm not sure if she got my poor joke, but poor girl, God save her! Fine, let me talk seriously.
Between the devil of marriage and the deep blue sea of life, we've chosen the devil and together we've decided to cross the deep blue sea. Was that serious enough? I don't think so. Sorry, I guess I've lost the seriousness in life.
To invoke the blessings of Lord Destiny and to seek all your wishes, we're getting wedded later this year. It's a long time still, but our contributions to the $25 billion Indian wedding industry have already begun. Leap of faith they call, and we've decided to take the leap, just as everyone else decides to. Where is this leap going to take us? Well, time will tell. But right now, it's celebration time, why think about dirty philosophies!
Glad till the dancing stops, and the lilt of the music ends.
Laugh till the game is played; and be you merry, my friends.
(John Masefield)
Laugh till the game is played; and be you merry, my friends.
(John Masefield)
Congrats Naren...
ReplyDeleteGod bless you both with a very happy, peaceful and lovely life ahead :)
And this is incidentally (or intentionally?;)) your Valentine's Day post :)
ReplyDeleteFor next year's valentine's day, expect a post titled "Was it all worth?" or "My biggest mistake ever" ;)
ReplyDeleteThere's one thing I know for sure - this girl Maya is awesome - consider yourself fortunate :p
ReplyDeleteYes, and she should consider herself unfortunate :)
ReplyDeleteBoth of you are fortunate - and I am sure you will balance out the not-so-fortunate bits in life, and each other ;-) and have a long, happy married life :)
ReplyDeleteHey Naren, Congrats!!!!!
ReplyDeleteThe proverbial 'Leap of Faith' has fetched me the best things - my friends, my wife, my life. Where my rational reasoning faltered, i have taken the leap. I guess its not reason, its this leap that has made me and my life. Wish the same to you and Maya !
ReplyDeleteManish, you should quit your job and get on to do inspirational talking :)
ReplyDeleteI believe a congratulations would be a hollow thing to write. That's what everybody does. I believe its another educational process, another step to grow up to, another realm to explore, a stepping stone to salvation and attachment together:) Enjoy the glory
ReplyDelete~Han
Salvation and Attachment - the best oxymoron I've heard ... maybe it's true, I don't know.
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