The damn love and the goddamn marriage

My mom still talks in wonder, how as a kid, I climbed a fragile tree and was sitting directly above a well when she saw me. Sparks of childhood, perhaps. I'm sure every mom has numerous such things to tell about her kid.

However the sparks don't continue for long, maybe because we grow out of those or because life's responsibilities creep over us. And as we realize those responsibilities, we start to stay away from adventures that could cause liabilities to ourselves or to people around us. We self-impose restrictions on our own freedom that can otherwise hinder us from catering to those responsibilities. Some of those responsibilities are true, and are probably related to our life's purpose if there was any, but many of those are false, and are probably related to our attachments.

As we grow even older, we may also develop what I would like to call the "detachmental indifference", that helps us reach a more mature, more stable state, from where, doing or not doing something, or having or not having something, does not make a significant difference to us. We may not perfect this for a long time, so we may try to combine the partial indifference with our conscience, to guide us during uncertain moments till then.

When I was possibly at this stage, I found myself in many interesting dilemmas. While I didn't want to leave existing false responsibilities unfulfilled, I was so bent on not creating new such ones. While I didn't want to withdraw from existing attachments, I was so bent on not forming new ones. But then there are some things you can't resist beyond a point, especially when you don't know how to. Voila, I've now decided to fall prey to the very unit called the family, that so much bothered me, that I believed primarily upheld human selfishness, that I believed even makes love selfish, and I'm sorry to say so again, that I believed even makes love impure.

The one question on this I want to ask God continues to be the same for years - "Did You create man so he can love everyone equally or did You create man so he can love the world in tiers?" Not having got the chance to meet God so far, and evidently not having found the answer to this question so far, I had no other option but to yield.

But what is all that the society trying to do with marriage?

Don't we want someone for ourselves?
Sure, but if there was no family and everybody was there for everyone else, why do we need someone for ourselves at all?
Don't we want to bequeath our own genes?
Exactly, that is the selfishness I'm talking about.
Won't human species go extinct otherwise?
If we really thought so, we should be saving the millions of children dying in Africa and Asia, before trying to create and save our own.
Don't you think a family is bringing some order in the chaos?
Yes, agreed, and I guess there stops all the reasons for marriage. I think any other reason to falsely sanctify marriage is ill-founded.

This is just my opinion. It can be as right or as wrong as yours is.

A wrong topic ends with a wrong conclusion because it had a wrong analysis, let me come back to this with a better analysis after finding out why marriage has survived for so long to create the order we so dearly need in our system.