A friend asked me "I wonder how your love letter would be!" I laughed and said "Well, that depends on how I decide to propose, but I would like to tell her a few things after I propose, for both of us to practice:
- We were independent individuals taking care of ourselves before we knew each other. Let us not expense our time and energy with workaday updates, unless required. Instead we can focus on other great stuff that we've been destined to take care of.
- If we choose to give more attention to someone else at some instant, let us not doubt if our love has reduced. Let our love be selfless.
- Let us keep emotions away and practice detachment while making rational decisions.
- When there's a conflict of opinions, let us respect our individual freedom of thoughts.
- Overindulgence does not do good to either of us in the long run and so does worrying over things we can't control or influence.
- Let us not blindly support or oppose each other with extreme prejudice. We will help each other understand both our strengths and weaknesses and try to complement them.
- Last but not the least, let us be honest in both admitting our mistakes and accepting our incapabilities. No one is perfect, it's the other's responsibility to adapt and forgive.
But even while we practice (or don't practice) all of these, let us not think we're the best (or the worst) couple in this world. That is an extremely biased statement filled with contempt for others (and ridicule for ourselves). For all we know, we might actually not be (or be) the ideal match. Let us just learn and grow together."
Seeing my friend yawning, I stopped here :)
Seeing my friend yawning, I stopped here :)
i huv sometimes felt husband-wife enjoy a politician-people relation.. both need each other for survival but they also try to ensure one can't live without the other. i think a true relation is one which reaches its peak of closeness and then teaches or rather equips the persons involved with how to live without the other(s). that way u r masters both individually and together. i'm happy to see u talking something on similar lines too.
ReplyDeleteNaren, I so very much wish you could understand malayalam enough to enjoy its jokes, if you do or if you can find someone who can reasonably translate it for you, please watch the below clip from a classic mallu movie
ReplyDeletehttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m6GWJ_bogDk
Reading your ideas about marriage etc.., you are a perfect fit for Sreenivasan's (the hero) role in that movie =))
Knowing your sense of sarcasm, I rather not dare to watch that ;)
ReplyDeleteFunny equivalents of ur points:
ReplyDelete1. We were independent individuals...please dont call me every hour or expect me to call u every hour.
2. If we choose to give more attention...allow me to show the respect to my mom that i always have shown.
3. Let us keep emotions away...allow me to work, u wudnt have married me if I dint earn this money.
4. When there's a conflict of opinions...dont fight with me 24x7 for the smallest things, letz at least fight for greater things.
5. Overindulgence does not do good...ur ant bite is not the biggest problem in this world. even if u worry, don't expect me to worry with u. at least let me be happy.
6. Let us not pathetically support...plz dont say my husband is always right or always wrong, especially before others.
7. let us be honest...i'm not perfect, plz understand that. n so r u.
let us not think v r the best couple...plz dont expect me to write an orkut testimonial saying u r the best wife in this world. dont write so for me too.
i typed the above with my wife sitting next to me...ya, she's the best wife in this world ;)
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